This article is from Time magazine and features a quote from our author, A. Thomas Horvath! The article can be found on page 50 of the February 28 issue hard copy and online at http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2050027-1,00.html .
By John Cloud / Malibu Monday, Feb. 28, 2011
A difference between an addict and a recovering addict is that one hides his behavior, while the other can’t stop talking about it. Self-revelation is an important part of recovery, but it can lead to awkward moments when you meet a person who identifies as a sex addict.
For instance, within a half-hour of my first meeting Neil Melinkovich, a 59-year-old life coach, sometime writer and former model who has been in Sex Addicts Anonymous for more than 20 years, he told me about the time in 1987 that he made a quick detour from picking up his girlfriend at the Los Angeles airport so he could purchase a service from a prostitute. Afterward, he noticed what he thought was red lipstick on himself. It turned out to be blood from the woman’s mouth. He washed in a gas-station bathroom, met his girlfriend at the airport and then, in the grip of his insatiability, had unprotected sex with her as soon as they got home — in the same bed he said he had used to entertain three other women in the days before.(See how addiction affects the brain.) Read More »
Dr. A. Thomas Horvath’s book, Sex, Drugs, Gambling and Chocolate: A Workbook for Overcoming Addictions was also awarded the ABCT Self-Help Book of Merit Award! Read on for some great tips about beating your bad habit!
Can you eat just one chocolate…or do you keep “sampling” until the box is gone? Does “just one beer” turn into…“one more for the road”?
If your bad habits have more control over you than you do, here’s good news: you don’t have to give up your bad habits or addictions in order to control them. The information is especially exciting for people with addictions to things such as sex or food — which most of us don’t wish to give up completely! This does contradict the teachings of most 12-step groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, which require total abstinence. Read More »